Emotions, Feelings, that butterfly thing you get in your stomach, there’s something I want to bring to y’all’s attention to that. THEY’RE NOT REAL!!! Strange, huh? Ok, I feel like this deserves some defining, good thing I’m here to do that for y’all. It’ll hopefully make sense at the end of this, so just stay with me. Really, to start with defining what emotions are, we should define what the f*$% we really are.
What we are experiencing on this plane of existence, the 3rd dimension, as our physical selves is just a reflection of what is going on with our inner self. There’s 3 forms of everything in the universe. Those that believe in the Christian God, he is the father, the son, and the holy ghost. Those that know a little bit about chemistry know that everything is either a solid, liquid, or gas. Water is, well, water, ice, and steam. We are the physical self (which is honestly nothing more than an electromagnetic meat suit), the mind (our thoughts/emotions), and the inner self (universal connection/higher power).
Now, imagine the 3rd dimension with me, please. There’s Length, Width, and Height. There’s 3 directions in which we see reality, and then we measure it with the 4th dimension, Time. Another way to say that is that we experience things in 3 dimensions. Anything that we measure something with our senses is an experience of the physical self. Therefore we are constantly having experiences in our life (good, bad, hard, easy) that affect how we perceive this life. Notice how I said it affects our perception of our life, and not actually life itself. Because all of this is just a perception of our mind, it is nothing but our creation that we experience.
It is what we think about that defines our reality, what we put our energy towards. The bills are piling up, baby mama needs the child support, baby daddy got arrested and needs bail money, your job is overwhelming and stressing you out, the more you think about these things the more they define your reality. And thoughts are just piggy backing upon the emotion your feeling at any point in time to bring it to the forefront of your mind to cause you to focus on it. Everything is emotion, everything is energy. Actually, let me go head and clarify that for you as well.
Everything is emotion, everything is energy. Well, if everything is emotion, and everything is energy, then wouldn’t that make emotion energy? I’m glad you asked, and yes that’s exactly what it is. Emotion is just an energy signal that is created in your brain to make you feel some type of way. I want you to wrap your mind around the fact that all we physically are is an electromagnetic meat suit. We are a series of electrical impulses that affect how we interact with our perceived world. How we interact with our perceived world is all defined by how we interpret the electrical impulses in our brain.
It’s how we think about what we think about when our brain gives up a thought. Every thought we have is attached to an emotion. And it’s whatever emotion that is strongest at that time that brings that thought to your attention. Now, this is where you gain control of your mind. Just because you have a thought that is brought forth by an emotion that is created by the electrical impulses that make up your physical self does not mean that you need to give more energy to that. You are not your thoughts. You are whatever the fuck you want to be, but we have been programmed a certain way since birth that doesn’t seem probable. However, that’s because you’re too worried about this physical plane and what comes with it.
Energy exceeds not only the physical self, but the physical plane as well. So the energy that you put out goes out into the universe, and the universe returns it to you how you put it out there. If your stressing on money because you don’t have enough to pay the bills, then the universe is gonna continue to make sure you can’t pay your bills. If you’re stressing on your relationship because it’s nothing but constant arguing, guess what, the universe is going to give you more and more arguments. So those electrical electoral emotions and thoughts that you devote energy towards are going to be returned to you by the universal forces that be. If you continue to put your energy towards shitty thoughts and emotions, you might want to go invest in some tall ass rubber boots, because you’re going to be wading in some serious shit.
Now, I’m going to let y’all in on something about me. I am an exceedingly emotional empathic individual. I cry almost all the time. I feel, and I feel strongly. Not only do I feel my own emotions strongly, but any of those around me that are experiencing an emotion strongly, well now I get to feel that f*$%er as well. So, before I was able to control my emotions the way I am now, shit got real deep for me.
I felt these emotions so strongly and didn’t know how to deal with them or didn’t want to deal with them or any other impressively large number of reasons I created towards them I did my best to numb them. By numbing them I mean indulging in any of the multitude of narcotics that were available to turn my mind off. This lasted for a very long time up honestly until the last year or so. Not dealing with them doesn’t do anything but delay the inevitable, because eventually whatever emotion/thought that I’m trying to avoid, well when the high wears off that emotion comes barreling back into my mind like the Kool-Aid Man. He doesn’t even have the common sense to use the door, just busts thought the fucking wall yelling at me “OHH YEA, HERE I AM”!
Addiction is a bandaid on a gunshot wound. Looks like it helps, but there’s still a bullet inside you, and until you grab some tweezers and pull that bullet out that band aid isn’t doing shit. Metaphorically, at one point in time I looked like swiss cheese. Literally, I felt the same way, there were holes in me that left me feeling incomplete. I got off drugs eventually, I still have my issues, however I’m in Recovery and let me say that there’s no longer any bullets, but there’s plenty of scars. They made me who I am, but they are not who I am. All those wounds were caused by a negative emotion that I invested my energy towards that caused the trigger to be pulled.
Here’s where I shock your minds, I put love and gratitude towards those negative life experiences since one thing for certain and two things for sure, they made me who I am today and I love this person. How you devote your energy and what you put it towards really affects your youniverse. I put love and gratitude towards all the experiences I have in my life, and the universe sends back love and gratitude. It’s really that simple, but I took a hard lesson learned for me to gain that wisdom. Now, you have to walk your own path to gain that perspective, but I’m going to give you some tips to help you deal with emotions as they occur in your mind, so that you can begin to focus your attention on what you give your attention to.
- Breathing Exercises to Calm Negative Emotions
When negative emotions like anger, frustration, or anxiety strike, it can be hard to find your center. One of the most effective ways to calm your mind and body is through controlled breathing. Here’s a simple technique to try:
Box Breathing Technique:
Inhale: Slowly breathe in through your nose for a count of four.
Hold: Hold your breath for a count of four.
Exhale: Slowly breathe out through your mouth for a count of four.
Hold: Hold your breath again for a count of four.
Repeat this cycle four times. Box breathing helps reduce stress and brings your focus back to the present moment.
Practice box breathing every morning and evening for one week. Notice how it affects your ability to manage stress throughout the day. - Mindfulness Exercises to Understand Your Emotions
Understanding why you feel a certain way is the first step in managing your emotions. Mindfulness helps you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Here’s a simple mindfulness exercise to help you discern your emotions:
Body Scan Meditation:
Find a quiet place and sit comfortably. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.
Slowly bring your attention to your feet. Notice any sensations—tingling, warmth, or tension.
Gradually move your attention up your body—legs, hips, abdomen, chest, arms, neck, and head. Notice each sensation without trying to change it.
If your mind wanders, gently bring it back to the part of the body you were focusing on.
This exercise helps you become more attuned to your physical and emotional states, allowing you to identify the sources of your emotions.
Perform a body scan meditation once a day for a week. Reflect on any patterns or insights you discover about your emotions. - Love and Gratitude Exercises to Shift Your Mindset
Shifting your focus to love and gratitude can transform your emotional landscape. Practicing gratitude helps you appreciate the positives in your life, even when things feel difficult. Here’s a simple exercise to cultivate gratitude:
Gratitude Journaling:
At the end of each day, write down three things you are grateful for. They can be small (a delicious meal) or significant (a supportive friend).
Reflect on why you are grateful for each of these things and how they made you feel.
If you encounter negative emotions during the day, refer back to your journal to remind yourself of the positives in your life.
Start a gratitude journal and commit to writing in it every night for two weeks. Observe how this practice impacts your overall mood and emotional well-being.| - Additional Tips for Emotional Management
Beyond these exercises, here are a few more strategies to help you navigate your emotions:
Physical Activity: Engaging in regular physical exercise can help release built-up tension and improve your mood.
Healthy Boundaries: Setting boundaries in your personal and professional life can prevent emotional overload.
Creative Expression: Find an outlet for your emotions through art, music, writing, or any other creative activity that resonates with you.
Choose one additional tip from the list above and incorporate it into your daily routine for the next week. Pay attention to how it affects your emotional health.
Dealing with emotions is a continuous journey, but with the right tools and practices, you can navigate your emotional landscape more effectively. By incorporating breathing exercises, mindfulness, gratitude practices, and other strategies into your daily life, you can cultivate a healthier, more balanced mindset.
Commit to incorporating at least one of these practices into your daily routine for the next month. Share your experiences and progress with a friend or in a journal. Remember, the journey to emotional well-being is ongoing, and every step forward is a victory. If you need any help doing with this, email me and I’ll do whatever I can to help you achieve your best you.
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DT’s Holistic Healing 